Our journey to Chris and Alex from Guangdong, China.
Monday, August 20, 2007
Update totals from KKAM and paypal!
We now have $659.20 in KKAM and $1060 in paypal. That still leaves us needing $3741 by Thursday! YIKES!! Talk about living on the edge! Edge of faith, I like to say:-)
You know, some people just don't get it. Ignore Diane's post! What a truly awesome thing you are doing to give two children a family when they may not have found one. I am sure you had the funds for one child (or you wouldn't have been approved through CHI), but were loving enough to add another to give him a home as well. May God bless your family abundantly (I believe He already has!).
I don't think Diane meant that she shouldn't be adopting at all...but, perhaps, she should make sure she could afford the fees BEFORE taking on TWO referrals at once. It's not exactly fair or appropriate to expect others to pay for YOUR choices.
I agree that it is great that 2 children found a home..BUT..if they can't afford the fees for 2 children, then how will they afford the special care that BOTH of these children will, undeniably, need in the future? I agree that maybe taking one referral now would be a better idea than begging for money to pay your fees. If we could not afford an adoption, we would not have pursued one.
I definitely agree with Diane as well. I do "get it"--which is why I think it's not the best idea to go into an adoption of two children when you can't afford the fees for them both. Perhaps someone else who could afford the fees would have stepped up to adopt the second child.
To Diana, Rhonda, Alana, and a&mg,You all don’t get that most of these special needs boys in China NEVER get homes. They never have families. They live out there childhoods in orphanages and then go to an occupational training home at age 14 when they are no longer eligible for adoption and basically never are able to have normal lives. For this family to welcome 2 boys with special needs into their family is a miracle, 2 boys that may have never had a family. For you to sit up on your high horses and judge this family is appalling! I suppose you would have no idea, what so ever, what it is to act on faith. That knowing in your heart these boys are yours and some how it will all work out. This family DID NOT beg any one for money. They made a blog and some other parents including me spread the word for this family that touched our hearts. To come up with a huge chunk of money right off the bat is totally different than having enough money each month to provide for these boys. There are second hand stores and hand me downs and kids don’t need brand name clothes and every new gizmo that comes out to be happy and loved. I’m sure this family has really great insurance to cover all the medical needs of these boys. Other wise an adoption agency and the CCAA wouldn’t let them adopt. This family that has such great faith is the perfect family for adoption! People like you that have absolutely no compassion for other people are the types that should never have kids. And Alana what is up with your picture. Isn’t it enough to have said nasty words to this family? You have to also send them a nasty picture of yourself sticking out your tongue like some kind of spoiled 3 year old? To the parents of Christopher and Alexander, Please ignore these jerks. There are so many of us out here that totally understand and support you. We’re lifting you up in our prayers. Go get those boys and bring them home where they belong. I have thought about your family so much and I will be following along on your blog. I can’t wait to see those sweet boys in your arms. I too adopted a 2 year old boy with a cleft lip and palate. He is the joy of my life and the apple of my eye. He is the answer to my prayers and the little man of my dreams. Bless you for adopting and I know you feel honored to have them.
there's a backlog of 30,000 families waiting to adopt we're not saving the world here.... even minor special needs kids.... the line up of families waiting is huge.
Avatar is what Alana's photo is.... is was not sent to this blog. just as my eyeball is not.
The reason there are 30,000 people waiting to adopt is because most of these people are not willing to adopt the special needs kids, older kids, boys, or African-American kids either. That is also the reason so many of these kids don't get adopted. Sad but true.
I'm new to blogging so my apologies for the comments on the photo.
I beg to differ. My agency puts out a waiting child list every few months or so. The list of parents waiting to review the files of the children with cleft pallate/cleft lip, VSD, spina bifida, Hep A, B and male toddlers is HUGE. Last list there were an overwhelming response to each child. I know MANY dissapointed parents who just want to the opportunity to parent just one child (male) and have the money to do so. And the 30,000 families Secret Agent is reffering to is the number of parents waiting to adopt from China. I am assuming you are reffering to our fostercare system, domestic adoptions, or another country.
I'm just saying, I personally would not persue two adoptions without the funds to complete it as such and rely on other people to fund MY dream. But thats just me.
P.S. This blog was forwarded to me with a "help out this family" header. I am busy working to fund my own adoption, thankyouverymuch.
*How wonderful that you are able to pay for your adoptions. *I was referring to domestic and international adoptions. *I have seen that there is more interest in the Chinese SN kids since they’ve upped the waiting time for the non-SN kids. You all sound so heartless and JEALOUS!!! You are welcome very much. And now I'm not going to waste any more time talking to a bunch of JERKS!
FIRST. everyone I send a comment to gets the same picture..trust me I have enough to do without taking time to send a "special" photo to these people. SECOND. If you bothered to research, we are ALL adopting children from China, many of us have or will adopt special needs children. NONE of us are begging for the funds to do it. THIRD. your comments about these boys living in an orphanage forever if these folks didn't "save" them is absured. My agency has over 3oo.. yes HUNDRED people waiting for special needs children, and that is only ONE agency. I have seen the fervor that people incite when a WC list comes out, I know people who want to adopt ANY special needs child, but are pushed to the back of a 100 person line for any given child. I don't think these boys' only hope lies here.
I work for a very large adoption agency and the country we work with the most is China. The fact of the matter is that these boys are going to a loving home and our agency works with families that need a little help financially all the time. As long as the children go to loving homes what does it matter if the parents needed a little help.
Children get lost in the system in every country all the time. Fact: once these children turn 5 most of them don’t get adopted at all. At the agency I work for there is a back log of parents waiting for China’s waiting children too. We’re only able to place most of the children under age 4 that don’t have really serious special needs. The parents waiting hardly ever ask for the files of the children over age 5. So joe_n_janelle is pretty right on from where I sit.
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Here's just a thought. If you can't afford to pay for this adoption on your own, perhaps you shouldn't be adopting.
You know, some people just don't get it. Ignore Diane's post! What a truly awesome thing you are doing to give two children a family when they may not have found one. I am sure you had the funds for one child (or you wouldn't have been approved through CHI), but were loving enough to add another to give him a home as well. May God bless your family abundantly (I believe He already has!).
I don't think Diane meant that she shouldn't be adopting at all...but, perhaps, she should make sure she could afford the fees BEFORE taking on TWO referrals at once. It's not exactly fair or appropriate to expect others to pay for YOUR choices.
I agree that it is great that 2 children found a home..BUT..if they can't afford the fees for 2 children, then how will they afford the special care that BOTH of these children will, undeniably, need in the future? I agree that maybe taking one referral now would be a better idea than begging for money to pay your fees. If we could not afford an adoption, we would not have pursued one.
I definitely agree with Diane as well. I do "get it"--which is why I think it's not the best idea to go into an adoption of two children when you can't afford the fees for them both. Perhaps someone else who could afford the fees would have stepped up to adopt the second child.
To Diana, Rhonda, Alana, and a&mg,You all don’t get that most of these special needs boys in China NEVER get homes. They never have families. They live out there childhoods in orphanages and then go to an occupational training home at age 14 when they are no longer eligible for adoption and basically never are able to have normal lives. For this family to welcome 2 boys with special needs into their family is a miracle, 2 boys that may have never had a family. For you to sit up on your high horses and judge this family is appalling! I suppose you would have no idea, what so ever, what it is to act on faith. That knowing in your heart these boys are yours and some how it will all work out. This family DID NOT beg any one for money. They made a blog and some other parents including me spread the word for this family that touched our hearts. To come up with a huge chunk of money right off the bat is totally different than having enough money each month to provide for these boys. There are second hand stores and hand me downs and kids don’t need brand name clothes and every new gizmo that comes out to be happy and loved. I’m sure this family has really great insurance to cover all the medical needs of these boys. Other wise an adoption agency and the CCAA wouldn’t let them adopt. This family that has such great faith is the perfect family for adoption! People like you that have absolutely no compassion for other people are the types that should never have kids. And Alana what is up with your picture. Isn’t it enough to have said nasty words to this family? You have to also send them a nasty picture of yourself sticking out your tongue like some kind of spoiled 3 year old? To the parents of Christopher and Alexander, Please ignore these jerks. There are so many of us out here that totally understand and support you. We’re lifting you up in our prayers. Go get those boys and bring them home where they belong. I have thought about your family so much and I will be following along on your blog. I can’t wait to see those sweet boys in your arms. I too adopted a 2 year old boy with a cleft lip and palate. He is the joy of my life and the apple of my eye. He is the answer to my prayers and the little man of my dreams. Bless you for adopting and I know you feel honored to have them.
there's a backlog of 30,000 families waiting to adopt
we're not saving the world here.... even minor special needs kids.... the line up of families waiting is huge.
Avatar is what Alana's photo is.... is was not sent to this blog.
just as my eyeball is not.
The reason there are 30,000 people waiting to adopt is because most of these people are not willing to adopt the special needs kids, older kids, boys, or African-American kids either. That is also the reason so many of these kids don't get adopted. Sad but true.
I'm new to blogging so my apologies for the comments on the photo.
Just for the record, I am currently adopting 2 children, from China and Ethiopia. And guess what, my husband and I are paying for it ourselves.
I beg to differ. My agency puts out a waiting child list every few months or so. The list of parents waiting to review the files of the children with cleft pallate/cleft lip, VSD, spina bifida, Hep A, B and male toddlers is HUGE. Last list there were an overwhelming response to each child. I know MANY dissapointed parents who just want to the opportunity to parent just one child (male) and have the money to do so. And the 30,000 families Secret Agent is reffering to is the number of parents waiting to adopt from China. I am assuming you are reffering to our fostercare system, domestic adoptions, or another country.
I'm just saying, I personally would not persue two adoptions without the funds to complete it as such and rely on other people to fund MY dream. But thats just me.
P.S. This blog was forwarded to me with a "help out this family" header. I am busy working to fund my own adoption, thankyouverymuch.
*How wonderful that you are able to pay for your adoptions. *I was referring to domestic and international adoptions. *I have seen that there is more interest in the Chinese SN kids since they’ve upped the waiting time for the non-SN kids. You all sound so heartless and JEALOUS!!! You are welcome very much. And now I'm not going to waste any more time talking to a bunch of JERKS!
FIRST. everyone I send a comment to gets the same picture..trust me I have enough to do without taking time to send a "special" photo to these people.
SECOND. If you bothered to research, we are ALL adopting children from China, many of us have or will adopt special needs children. NONE of us are begging for the funds to do it.
THIRD. your comments about these boys living in an orphanage forever if these folks didn't "save" them is absured. My agency has over 3oo.. yes HUNDRED people waiting for special needs children, and that is only ONE agency. I have seen the fervor that people incite when a WC list comes out, I know people who want to adopt ANY special needs child, but are pushed to the back of a 100 person line for any given child. I don't think these boys' only hope lies here.
I work for a very large adoption agency and the country we work with the most is China. The fact of the matter is that these boys are going to a loving home and our agency works with families that need a little help financially all the time. As long as the children go to loving homes what does it matter if the parents needed a little help.
Children get lost in the system in every country all the time. Fact: once these children turn 5 most of them don’t get adopted at all. At the agency I work for there is a back log of parents waiting for China’s waiting children too. We’re only able to place most of the children under age 4 that don’t have really serious special needs. The parents waiting hardly ever ask for the files of the children over age 5. So joe_n_janelle is pretty right on from where I sit.
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